Self Compassion is defined as “extending compassion to one’s self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure or general suffering.”
How often do you find yourself in a situation where you felt inadequate, or where you didn’t perform as well as you thought you should? How do you react? How do you treat yourself?
Research from neuroscientists and physiologists show that people who practice self compassion are more productive and can sustain a higher level of work then those who don’t.
So…what is self compassion? It’s made up of 3 parts.
Part 1 - Self Kindness
Here we focus on being kinder to yourselves, being more understanding and nurturing instead of critical and judgemental.
Part 2 - Common Humanity
Here we understand that you aren’t the only one dealing with these things. Everyone has challenges, makes mistakes, feels adequate and fails.
Part 3 - Mindfulness
Here we focus on being in a state that is nonjudgmental, conscious and aware. It is here that we can re-evaluate mistakes and learn from them.
Compared to self criticizers, people who are more self compassionate
- rarely “choke” under pressure and perform better
- are more resilient and able to bounce back faster from setbacks
- feel depressed and anxious
- have better relationships
- are less egocentric
- are more satisfied with life
- are more confident taking risks
- learn, grow and develop more effectively
- are psychologically healthier overall
Next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel inadequate or unsure, be sure to focus on practicing self compassion instead of being too criticizing.